. >> but part of it is even under the best circumstances, you can control your environment a bit when you've had rest. nobody has slept. no one has had any rest the last four days, or five now. even if you weren't damaged in the storm, you've been out helping your neighbors. every bone sort of aches. >> some people aren't able to sleep because of what's going on, but when you're stressed, it can be difficult to sleep, because that's when you worry. time to go to sleep, suddenly every little thing comes into your head. you start worrying about it and that makes it tough to sleep. >> you have to break the cycle. there's a lot of activity based on the reality people have lost everything. >> people have. >> somebody has to break the cycle, family, support group, a friend has to step in and say let's talk about this. it's not just about the loss, but it's about the rebuilding. how do we start putting our lives back together again, so you go out of victim mode, which is totally understandable. >> but you can't stay there. >> now being much more of a victim. >> i met a family, how did you ke